Lil Baby Reveals Young Thug Paid Him to Leave the Hood
Lil Baby welcomes XXL to his Oakland City stomping grounds in Atlanta, where he chilled in the streets before becoming a rapper. The Quality Control artist discusses his friendship with Young Thug, kicking off his rap career and fatherhood. Read Lil Baby’s full-length XXL magazine cover story interview here: https://bit.ly/2IfPbXF Beat produced by D-Fresh Beatz.
California HS football team cancels season after sexual battery allegations
Football players at a California high school decided to end their season early following allegations that a player was sexually assaulted by teammates.
The Gilroy Unified School District announced Wednesday that “most of the varsity players” at Gilroy High School “have chosen not to finish the season and therefore, at this time, the season will not continue.”
Four players were issued citations for sexual battery after allegedly assaulting a player in the locker room after practice on Sept. 26, per the Mercury News. All of the accused individuals are minors and therefore further information has not been released.
Gilroy police captain Joseph Deras told the Mercury News:
“We investigated the allegations and determined there was evidence to support a criminal complaint. The aggravating circumstance was the number of suspects involved, and the use of force or fear played a role in our arresting decision.”
The school district announced the investigation in a bulletin posted Sept. 30. In an update the next day, it wrote it hoped the incident “will not affect” the football season. In announcing the students’ decision to cancel, the district wrote it was still “fully committed” to the program and finishing the schedule.
The program won it first section championship two years ago with a 13-0 record, per the News, but switched coaches and have gone 1-13 since.
The Santa Clara County District Attorney’s Office will determine if students are prosecuted. Gilroy is approximately 70 miles south of San Francisco.
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How to Overcome an Insecure Avoidant Attachment Style
You need to find out who you can trust.
Due to a childhood filled with emotional neglect, absentee parenting, emotional abuse or domestic violence, you may have developed an insecure avoidant attachment style. If so, then you may have avoided real relationships for most of your life. If you have been in any relationships, they likely have been relationships you could control.
When partners try to get too close to you, you feel torn. You may have an irresistible urge to end your relationship if your partner comes too close and demands “access” to your thoughts and feelings. You may literally feel like lashing out your arms to create space around you.
Where does this type of avoidant behavior come from? Usually it is grounded in a deep fear of trusting another person. You feel that your partner is never going to understand you anyway, and that they wouldn’t love you if only they knew who you truly are.
An avoidant person does not erase boundaries or change their values or beliefs for the sake of others. They are unable to trust other people, they dislike confrontations, and they have control issues.
To resolve avoidance behavior you need to see a professional therapist who specializes in these issues, so they can get resolved once and for all. Don’t expect a miracle when working with a therapist. It is hard work and can take years to resolve hidden issues.
In the meantime, there are little things you can do on your own. First, you have to realize that trust should always be treated as relative to a person. Some people can be trusted, some not. You need to find out who you can trust and who you cannot trust.
This is not hard to do. Don’t reveal your deepest secrets to strangers or people you have only known for a short period of time. Some secrets are less important than others. Make a list of a large number of your deepest secrets, listing the most unimportant secrets first. Your most unimportant secrets are those secrets people don’t know about but would not destroy your self-worth or reputation, were they to become widely known (e.g., having smoked marijuana in college or having thrown up after last year’s company holiday party).
Start by sharing these unimportant (or less important) secrets with people you think you can potentially trust. That way, you can find out whether you can actually trust them. If people pass on your secrets to others (especially if you tell them not to), then you will know that cannot trust them. Here is the most important part: if the people you think you can trust use what you tell them against you later, then they are not in fact trustworthy.
If you use this approach, you will begin to get a sense of who you can trust and who you can’t trust. You can now go one step further (with secrets further down your list) with the people who seem to be trustworthy. This sort of gradual approach may just work to regain trust in people around you.
In terms of confrontations: Few of us like confrontations. But sometimes we have to confront people. You should always confront people when they invade your personal space or overstep your boundaries. Confront people by speaking up immediately (not ten days later). Don’t ever change yourself for the sake of pleasing another person. Stick to your views whether they be religious, political, philosophical, culinary or fashion-related. Tell people what you like and don’t like. Of course, you should be able to listen to other people and be open to good arguments that can convince you to think about things differently. But if people are just trying to make you change sides for no reason that you can relate to, then speak up. Inform them that you have a (constitutional) right to your own opinion.
As for your control issues: here I think it may be helpful to practice some mindfulness. The core principle in the mindful approaches I prefer teaches us that life is too short to be strongly affected by little and unimportant issues. There are big issues that really matter. Then there are little issues that don’t really matter, including subjective issues such as: whose children (according to the parents themselves) are the best in the class, whether your favorite political candidate did a good job during the last round of debates, whether you look tired, whether Mac is more user friendly than PC, and so on.
I am not saying that there could not be a fact of the matter in these cases, but only that in most cases of issues that cannot be settled and therefore are subjective, nothing hinges on the outcome. Debating things with people can be fun. But it can also lead to unnecessary anger and resentment. When things don’t go anywhere, you have to learn to let go. Remind yourself that in many cases, life is too short to put a lot of energy into who is right or wrong or to be upset by little things that are without consequence.
Article via PsychologyToday
Woman steals $20 from 9-year-old boy in Queens pizzeria
BRIARWOOD, Queens — Police are looking for a woman they say snatched cash right out of a young boy’s hand at a Queens pizzeria in September.
Authorities said it went down at Natalie’s Pizza on Parsons Blvd. in the Briarwood neighborhood, on Wednesday, Sept. 25 just before 4 p.m.
The 9-year-old boy was standing in the restaurant when the unidentified woman took $20 in cash out of his hand and fled the pizza shop, running southbound on Parsons Blvd., police said.
The NYPD has released the above surveillance image of the woman they’re looking for, describing her as an adult with a medium build, last seen wearing a black t-shirt.
via: https://pix11.com/2019/10/03/woman-steals-20-from-9-year-old-boy-in-queens-pizzeria-police/
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Cheerleader jumps off homecoming float to save choking toddler
Cheerleader Tyra Winters is Rockwall High School’s homecoming hero and it wasn’t for anything that happened on the field.
The 17-year-old senior was riding on a float in the homecoming parade when she saw a desperate mother and a little boy who needed help.
“I see the kid. I see a little bright red face and his mom’s holding him up, begging for help, screaming, asking ‘someone help me someone help me,’ Winters told CNN affiliate KTVT.
She told the station that her first thought was “Oh my God, I’ve got to help this child.
“Her kid’s turning purple, so I immediately jumped off the float and I ran down to the kiddo and I said ‘I got him,’” Winters said.
She held the little boy and gave him three strong back thrusts that made him spit up the candy he was choking on.
The incident happened on September 18, but 2-year-old Clarke and his mom, Nicole Hornback, came to Winters’ school on Tuesday to thank her.
Hornback told KTVT she was sitting right next to Clarke when it happened.
“I just happened to look over to him and there was no noise, there was no coughing, there was no breathing,” she said. “And at that moment that’s when I tried to give him the Heimlich, and I’ve never taken a class. To feel so useless as a mother was the most terrifying thing in my life.”
Fortunately, Winters had gotten CPR training in eighth grade because her mom is in the medical field. Winters plans to be a pediatric surgeon.
“I commend her for being a teenager and being trained,” Hornback said. “She saved my baby.”
Hornback told the station that her family is going to get CPR and first aid training right away.
via: https://pix11.com/2019/10/03/cheerleader-jumps-off-homecoming-float-to-save-choking-toddler/
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NC mother, stepfather arrested after 7-year-old boy ‘covered from head to toe in bruises’ found dead
Fayetteville, NC (WGHP ) — A North Carolina couple was charged with child abuse after a 7-year-old boy died, according to police.
At about 4:42 a.m. Wednesday, police responded to a report of an unresponsive person in a home on the 1500 block of Sisal Drive.
At the scene, police found 7-year-old Ethan Bates, who died at the scene.
The boy’s mother, Evie Loretta Bates, 24, and his step-father, Saint Michael Edwards, 23, were both charged with felony intentional child abuse inflicting serious bodily injury.
According to arrest warrants, the boy was “covered from head to toe in bruises” and “appeared to have broken bones in his hand and foot.”
They are both being held at the Cumberland County Detention Center under a $1 million secured bond.
Police are waiting for an autopsy report to determine the child’s cause of death. More charges may come when the autopsy comes through.
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Oregon doctor claims sperm was improperly used to father at least 17 kids
An Oregon doctor got a big surprise when he submitted his DNA to Ancestry.com — the test revealed he had 17 children he’d known nothing about.
It turned out a fertility clinic may have used his sperm without his permission to father the children — and now he worries he could have even more rugrats running around without his knowledge, he claims in a $5.25 lawsuit reported by The Oregonian.
Bryce Cleary, now 53, donated his sperm to the Oregon Health & Science University 30 years ago as a medical school student, under an agreement that only allowed for it to be used to conceive five children, he claims in his suit.
“I wanted to help people struggling with infertility and I had faith that OSHU would act in a responsible manner and honor their promises,” Cleary told reporters.
After graduating, Cleary married and had three sons of his own and adopted a daughter. But in March 2018, two sisters contacted Clearly looking for information about their biological dad.
After submitting his DNA to the genealogical website Ancestry.com, Clearly says he discovered he was the father to those girls — as well as to 15 other people.
But “there could be a huge number of kids out there,” he said.
At least two of the offspring conceived through OSHU went to the same schools, church or social activities as the children he had with his wife, Cleary claims.
That means the clinic breached another promise: that Cleary’s sperm be used only for couples living outside Oregon, in order to lessen the chances the offspring would meet or become romantically involved, states the lawsuit filed in Multnomah County Circuit Court.
“The idea that you can produce that many children from one donor and throw them all in the same region?” Cleary asked. “There has got to be some reforms.”
Also, Cleary says the clinic was supposed to keep his information private, but didn’t.
All of the promises OSHU allegedly made, “were a lie,” Cleary said, adding that his donation was “distributed locally and in a largely irresponsible manner.”
The lawsuit claims that Cleary “incurred extreme mental and emotional pain, anguish and suffering, which have all had a significant and negative impact on his personal, parental and marital relationships.”
OSHU said it couldn’t comment on the case for confidentiality reasons.
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Teacher says he was fired for refusing to use male pronouns for transgender student
(CNN) — A Virginia teacher has filed a lawsuit saying he was wrongfully fired for refusing to use male pronouns for a transgender student.
In 2018, a student at West Point High School began identifying as male. He and his mother asked for him to be referred to with his preferred name and pronouns: he, him, his.
French teacher Peter Vlaming said he couldn’t “in good conscience” comply, citing his religious beliefs, according to the complaint. He consistently used the student’s preferred male name and attempted to avoid the use of any pronouns at all, his lawsuit says.
The school, according to the lawsuit, gave the teacher an ultimatum: Use the student’s preferred pronouns or lose your job.
School officials suspended the teacher for insubordination. Vlaming was ultimately fired after he refused to use the male pronouns and for repeatedly ignoring orders from his bosses.
“Mr. Vlaming’s conscience and religious practice prohibits him from intentionally lying, and he sincerely believes that referring to a female as a male by using an objectively male pronoun is telling a lie,” the lawsuit argues.
CNN has reached out to West Point Public Schools for comment and has not heard back. The school is about 40 miles east of Richmond.
A spokesperson for West Point Public Schools said in a statement to The Washington Post that its board denies any wrongdoing. “West Point Public Schools’ primary focus is on students, staff, and instruction,” the spokesperson said. “We will continue to direct our energy toward maintaining a high-quality learning environment in our schools.”
Vlaming worked with the district for seven years. The decision to fire the teacher came after a virtual reality exercise in the classroom, where Vlaming called out, “Don’t let her hit the wall!” as the transgender student walked in that direction, the lawsuit states.
The student waited for all the students to leave class that day before approaching the teacher, the lawsuit says.
“Mr. Vlaming, you may have your religion,” the student said, according to the suit, “but you need to respect who I am!”
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School officials said the educator was insubordinate and failed to follow directives from administrators. And, officials said, the teacher could not be allowed to treat the transgender student differently.
“That discrimination then leads to creating a hostile learning environment. And the student had expressed that,” Superintendent Laura Abel told the Richmond Times-Dispatch late last year. “The parent had expressed that. They felt disrespected.”
The firing led to petitions as well as a student walkout in support of Vlaming. Students held signs saying “men are men and women are women” and “facts don’t care about your feelings,” CNN affiliate WWBT in Richmond reported at the time.
The former teacher is now suing the school district officials, saying they breached his contract and discriminated against him, violating his right to speak freely and his religious freedom. He is seeking $500,000 in lost wages and benefits, plus $500,000 for loss of reputation, pain, suffering and emotional distress. He is asking to get his job back or another position at equal or higher pay.
“This isn’t just about a pronoun, it’s about what that pronoun means,” Tyson Langhofer, director of the ADF Center for Academic Freedom, said in a statement. “This was never about anything Peter said or did; only about what the school was demanding he say. Nobody should be forced to contradict his core beliefs just to keep a job.”
The University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Resource Center has previously talked about the importance of pronouns in referring to transgender people. “It is a privilege to not have to worry about which pronoun someone is going to use for you based on how they perceive your gender,” its website says. “If you have this privilege, yet fail to respect someone else’s gender identity, it is not only disrespectful and hurtful, but also oppressive.”
CNN’s Phil Gast contributed to this report.
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Mom charged with 1st-degree murder after shaking 5-month-old son to death
Palm Harbor (WFTS) — A 5-month-old baby boy has died after authorities say he suffered a severe brain bleed from abuse.
The baby’s mother Burgandie Marquez, 30, was arrested Saturday afternoon by detectives with the Crimes Against Children Unit.
On Tuesday night, the Pinellas County Sheriff’s Office charged Marquez with first-degree murder.
During an interview, Marquez gave contradicting statements before admitting she was too “rough” with her son, according to detectives.
Marquez told authorities that on Thursday, after she became enraged during a phone call with the baby’s father, she intentionally jerked the 5-month-old up from the ground twice causing his head to snap backward. She told detectives she then picked the child up and ran up and down a set of stairs, allowing his head to bounce without support.
On Friday morning, Marquez says she noticed the baby was having seizures. Detectives say instead of seeking medical attention, she tried consoling the baby.
Later that day, Marquez traveled to Pasco County with the baby to meet with his father. She stopped at a gas station when his condition got worse and he was airlifted to St. Joseph’s for life-threatening injuries.
Staff at the hospital told detectives the child suffered a severe brain bleed caused by head trauma.
The 5-month-old boy was placed on life support, but taken off of it Monday afternoon, according to detectives.
Witnesses told detectives the baby appeared to be fine on Wednesday. Marquez was the infant’s only caretaker between Monday and Friday, according to detectives.
Marquez was arrested and taken to the Pinellas County Jail, where she remains.
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