Boston College student accused of driving boyfriend Alexander Urtulam to suicide
A Boston College student repeatedly urged her boyfriend to kill himself — telling him the “world would be better without him” before he jumped to his death on the morning of his graduation in May, according to a new report.
Suffolk County prosecutors on Monday announced Inyoung You, 21, had been charged with involuntary manslaughter over the suicide of her boyfriend, fellow Boston College student Alexander Urtulam, the Boston Globe reported.
The suspect psychologically and physically abused Urtula during their 18-month relationship — repeatedly encouraging him to kill himself despite being aware of his “spiraling depression,” District Attorney Rachael Rollins said at a press conference.
The pair exchanged 75,000 text messages in the two months before Urtula took his own life, with You telling him “go die” and “go kill yourself,” prosecutors said.
The 21-year-old has returned to her native South Korea but will be extradited to the US if she does not voluntarily return to face the charges, Rollins said.
“This case is a tragedy but it’s just one example of a systemic epidemic [of domestic violence],” Rollins said.
“Domestic violence may not look the same [in every instance] but it is always about power and control,” she added.
Urtula, of Cedar Grove, NJ, jumped to his death from the Renaissance parking garage in Boston on May 20, the same day he was supposed to graduate with a biology degree.
You isolated her boyfriend from his family and friends and tracked his location on her phone. Chillingly, You was present at the parking garage when Urtula leaped to his death, Rollins said.
A grand jury handed up the indictment on Oct. 18, finding You was “wanton and reckless” and created “life-threatening conditions for Mr. Urtula that she had a legal duty to alleviate,” according to court documents obtained by the Globe.
The case echoes “suicide text” girlfriend Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman who was convicted of urging her boyfriend via text messages to kill himself in July 2014.
According to the Boston Herald, You sent Urtula, 22, more than 780 “manipulative and threatening” text messages each day in the months leading up to his death.
The suspect also used threats of self-harm to control her boyfriend and manipulate him.
Urtula killed himself just two hours before he was supposed to walk in his graduation ceremony — his family traveling from New Jersey to Boston for the event.
“His family never got to do so,” Rollins said Monday.
His girlfriend was studying economics and was scheduled to graduate in May 2020 but withdrew from classes in August, three months after Urtula died, a Boston College spokesperson told The Globe.
Urtula was remembered as a “gifted student” and was involved in many groups, including the Phillippine Society of Boston College.
He had been working as a researcher in a New York hospital and according to his LinkedIn, also worked as a researcher at a women’s hospital in Boston in the hematology department.
Rollins told reporters domestic violence “does not discriminate” — noting it affected people regardless of their race, sexual orientation or age.
“Domestic violence may not always looked the same, but it is always about power and control,” she added.
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